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You’ve probably heard about the wage gap, but we need to talk about another gender-based disparity that doesn’t get the attention it deserves: the pleasure gap, aka the orgasm gap.

Consider this maddening, albeit unsurprising, statistic: A 2015 survey published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that just 65 percent of heterosexual women—presumably cisgender, although the authors didn’t specify—reported “usually-always” orgasming during sexual intimacy, compared with 95 percent of heterosexual men.

That’s all sorts of messed up.

Prioritizing your own sexual pleasure starts with knowing what you like in bed. But as sex educator Cassandra Corrado notes in the latest episode of You Deserve Good Sex, there’s no sex-positive guidebook to reference when we’re getting ready to make our sexual debuts—which means we’re left to figure it out on our own.

Find out why self-exploration is so important and what resources you can use to finally start taking your pleasure seriously. Because all of us—yep, that goes for you too—deserve good sex.