McCain’s stumble exposes the war on contraception, Heather Boonstra fills us in on the International AIDS Conference, the Tyra Banks Show gives really bad dating advice, and a pick-up artist gets his on the internets.

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O’Reilly vs. contraception
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This week on Reality Cast, we’ll have an interview about the
International Aids Conference with a representative from Guttmacher, another
installment about the ongoing war on contraception, and a break from the heavy
stuff by mocking the sexist dating advice on the Tyra Banks Show. Also, a taste
of a phone message left by the worst person alive.

 

Thanks to everyone who agreed to be in our man on the street
interviews at Netroots Nation. Here’s a sample:

 

* insert netroots nation

 

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most grateful. It really helps drive
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Now more news on the ongoing and mostly underground war on
contraception. And when I say mostly underground, I mean that it’s becoming
more and more above ground, probably because anti-choicers feel that they’re
really close to being able to push harder on this issue. One big initial issue is the fallout from John
McCain being caught on video unwilling to say anything positive about
contraception, and certainly unwilling to say that it’s unfair for insurance
companies to cover Viagra but not contraception.

 

Of course, the right wing surrogates jumped up to take it a
step further and try to push Americans to the right on this issue, arguing that
contraception should become controversial again, instead of just a normal part
of life. Bill O’Reilly, functioning
under his usual belief that women aren’t quite human beings, led the
brigade.

 

• insert
  oreilly contraception

 

In other words, men having sex in a medical necessity, but
women having sex are just sluts trying to get away with something. The irony of this is that the worst thing
that can happen to a man who doesn’t have Viagra, medically speaking, is that
he doesn’t have intercourse and an orgasm.
For a woman who is denied access to birth control, the medical effects
can be hypertension, weight gain, searing pain, surgery, and even death. So O’Reilly thinks that a woman dying is less
of a medical problem than a man having to skip the sex once in awhile. That’s
an unvarnished double standard, though I have no doubt O’Reilly would bristle
if you called him sexist.

 

And who are these men that need sex supposed to be having
sex with if women aren’t supposed to be having sex? Each other?
I suppose that’s a solution, but not one that I expect a homophobe like
O’Reilly to understand. Maybe he thinks
Viagra is so you can get an erection to waggle at other men to show that you
can do it, but not actually used for sexual intercourse.

 

The good news is that McCain’s squirmy moment means that the
anti-contraception agenda of the far right is getting mainstream media
attention. Chris Hayes and Rachel Maddow
talked about it on MSNBC.

 

• maddow
  birth control

 

So that’s some good media attention. I wish, however, that more attention was paid
to why McCain is doing this little dance around an issue that is relatively
popular, which is insurance coverage for birth control, which the majority of
Americans rely on for a happy, healthy sex life. Or even if they don’t need it,
many support it on principle. He’s doing
it to kow-tow to an extremist right wing that needs to be exposed for the
nutbars they are.

 

Which is why I’m glad to see Hillary Clinton lending her
name to an effort to resist the HHS attempt to redefine the birth control pill
as abortion under the Bush administration, in an effort to make it easier for
health care providers to refuse to provide this basic medical service. Look: They don’t really think it’s abortion
so much as they’ve realized that it’s politically easier to turn people on fake
abortions than it is to say, as Bill O’Reilly did, that your desire not to get
pregnant is irrelevant. Most people
don’t experience the need to use birth control as irrelevant, nor do most
people think of women as subhuman with interests we don’t have to care about at
all.

 

* insert Clinton
birth control

 

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• insert
  interview

 

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Oh my god, I haven’t checked over to the Tyra Banks Show’s
website in awhile, and I missed how they’ve got web exclusives with even more
nauseatingly wrong-headed sex and dating advice on it. Most disturbingly, they had this woman named
Patti Stanger giving her own version of The Rules for single women, and as you
can imagine, they’re horrifically bad rules and sexist to boot.

 

• insert
  stanger 1

 

Assumption: You, as a single woman, have nothing to do but
date and can devote your every last hour on men, no matter how little you like
them. Horribly sexist. This assumes that women live for men and men
alone. When I was single, I barely had
time for 3 dates a week for someone I was madly in love with, much less a bunch
of dudes that I know I don’t like.
Because I have a life and a job.
And a blog. The assumption is
that single women make getting married their career, which doesn’t correspond
to reality.

 

Her next piece of advice is not to drink too much on dates,
which is not bad advice, I guess, but I think she’s offering it in bad
faith. I think she’s offering it because
she wants your inhibitions to be up so you follow this next piece of advice.

 

• insert
  stanger 2

 

Assumption: Women have no sexual desires of their own, but
simply view our bodies as currency to exchange for other things. In other words, every woman is a prostitute,
except instead of selling your body for money, in this case, you’re selling it
for commitment.

 

This belief, that women only want commitment and men only
want sex, and that relationships only happen after a tense exchange of the two
like it’s a financial transaction, is what guides abstinence-only education and
even anti-choice arguments. See, if we
chance getting knocked up every time we have sex, then we won’t have sex
without the wedding ring and tah-dah!
Um, well, that’s the only way we’ll get married? I think that’s the argument. Never mind that most people get married and
95% of Americans have sex before marriage. Maybe—and I know this is crazy
feminist talk—a man commits to you because he loves you and wants to be with
you. I know. Impossible.
Even though plenty of experience out there says otherwise.

 

The next piece of advice is good, about how you need to be
mindful of the fact that you inherit someone’s debt when you marry him. That’s why I think that debtor laws probably
need to be reconsidered. But it’s no
wonder that women will marry men that bring all sorts of baggage in an environment
where women are told that getting married should be their main and possibly
only goal in life. Desperation invades
at that point.

 

• insert
  stanger 3

 

Every girl wants to get married? Uh, well I don’t. But then again, I call myself a woman, not a
girl, so there you go. The idea that you should be announcing your engagement within
less than a year of dating someone is the sort of thinking that leads straight
to our high divorce rate. You can whine
and bemoan our culture where people date for a long time before they get
married, but you’ll be contending with statistical evidence against you. People are dating longer and marrying later
in life, and this is leading to a drop in the divorce rate. The rush to the altar is a quick way of
legally binding yourself to someone you don’t know very well. Hell, I wasn’t even willing to talk about
moving in with my boyfriend until we’d been dating a year. What’s the harm in going slow and protecting
yourself? With her timeline, you’d
probably not even have a chance to figure out if you’re sexually compatible
before you get married, which is not to say the other compatibility problems
that would arise later if you don’t know the person you’re marrying.

 

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And now for the Wisdom of Wingnuts. A phone message left for a woman met on the
street by professional anti-feminist and pick-up artist wannabe James Sears got
released online.

 

• insert
  douchebag call

 

It was so hard to figure out what part to sample from
this. The entire thing was just an
amazing example of male entitlement. At
no point does he even pause to consider the idea that she’s not calling him
because he’s anything less than the greatest guy on earth.

 

He’s bitter and started an anti-feminist cottage industry
after his medical license was stripped because he was caught sexually
assaulting female patients.